Pascal said, “We never really live, but we hope to live,” and it’s true. Most of us are straining for something that seems just out of reach. Or else why are some people happy while others are steeped in misery? Why do some whistle while others whine? What would it take to make you happy? A new job? A new home? A new relationship? Money in the bank? Better health? I’ve learned—often the hard way—that none of these things bring contentment. Oscar Wilde epitomized our condition